I recently fell into a trap of becoming obsessed and fixated on a dream that I wasn’t sure would or could become reality.
Not to spoil how that worked out for me, but it ended up consuming me and, surprise, surprise, I broke my own heart.
I climbed out of it the only way I could... One intense rage cry later, I faced the reality that I had no control at all.
And then, I shifted my mindset just enough to allow the truth to sink in.
What was that truth?
This:
1. Being so attached and focused on a particular dream or goal keeps me living in the fear of it not coming true. Fear stops me from being present in my body, in my day, in all the good things that show up. And that is so far removed from living the wonderful life I had envisioned.
2. The opposite of obsessing over the unknown future is being present. And when I am present, following my joy, the future doesn’t matter. I feel like I’m living my best life, right now… even without that thing I really wanted.
3. The only thing I need to do and be is MYSELF. Not my highest self or untouchable “best” self, just me as I am right now. My favourite self. My messiest self. Just myself.
4. When I am myself in my truth — and as a byproduct, allow myself to be present — I am on the path of my best life. This is where dreams effortlessly fade or where dreams are made. And either option is fine because joy exists.
That’s the juxtaposition of life.
